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  • You sound like a gender/sex swapped version of me, 15 years ago.

    I was a hopeless romantic as well, would have crushes on girls, do my best to be as respectful and cordial as possible while hanging out, asking out, or going out on dates with them… falling in love with a fantasy idea of them, huge emotional highs from any attention, massive lows from rejection, lack of contact, or them acting wildly unlike my wistful idea of them.

    Sorry to tell you, but this guy likely just was/is not really that interested in you, or anyone, as a serious relationship partner.

    If he was, he would have made time, would not have ghosted you.

    He said he’s never been in an ‘official relationship’ before, asks you if you are single.

    He makes sexual jokes when its just you and a few other people.

    He enjoys seeing you in person, reciprocates hugs when you meet… but is always asking what you’re doing that night, that weekend, tries to get you over to his place…

    He’s most likely the kind of guy that is not interested in serious relationships, and is really just looking for convenient flings.

    Doesn’t make him evil. Doesn’t make him a saint.

    Unless theres more to this story where you’ve already told him directly how much he means to you, how you really feel, where you directly said ‘Hey do you want to go on a date / be my boyfriend’…

    … he probably has no idea that you are basically in unrequited love with him.

    He probably doesn’t hate you, he probably just likes you as a friend and finds you attractive, a potentially bangable friend.

    As for what to do next?

    Well, first come to terms with the idea that he enjoys your company as a friend, and potential friend with benefits, but currently is not interested in a serious relationship with you, despite your efforts thus far.

    Then, you could accept this, continue to be a more casual friend with him.

    Or you could maybe write him an email that explains … hey you know I am actually pretty seriously enamored with you as a potential serious, long term relationship, and I’d like to know if you’d be interested in that.

    It could be that it just did not occur to him that that’s what you’d like, and maybe he’d be willing to try!

    Or… maybe not, and then hopefully you two can still be friends.

    A lot of guys (myself included) are pretty dense when it comes to determining ‘hints’ from women.

    And I say ‘hints’ because you never described yourself asking him out on a date, asking him to go steady with you, telling him how interested in him you are, doing or saying anything that would specifically indicate you want a serious relationship with him.

    You often have to be pretty direct with a lot of guys, with how you feel and what you want, otherwise, they’ll miss them entirely.



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  • Similar stuff has happened to me.

    Here’s a rough template of an input questionaire in MSFT Forms, its not actually ready yet as we haven’t set up the actual place the inputs will be recorded, nor set up a way to mirror it into our actual database that our entire intranet uses.

    Come back after the weekend, dummy questionaire has replaced the front end of our old system, meaning we’ve just functionally not logged about 72 hours of requests for assistance from the homeless, during a blizzard, and COVID.

    After this, our webmaster / marketing director, this woman who earns a quarter mil a year… straight up told me, in an email, she does not actually read anything I write in my emails to her that requires scrolling.

    She’s very busy, you see.

    When she asked me, unprompted, in an in person meeting, if I could ‘implement the blockchain’ in our (PostGres, not that she knows what that is) database, for ‘security benefits’, I wanted to strangle her to death, but settled on collapsing my head into my hands, then looking up and saying no, that would make everything extremely inefficient and make it much more insecure.

    She says, oh really, are you sure about that?

    Yes.

    Ok then well I guess that wraps up this meeting (shit eating grin) keep up the good work!

    … I no longer work in the tech industry.