• x00z@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    I was only allowed on the computer occasionally until I was 10 (a few hours per week) and I only got access to the internet when I was 12.

    I consider that good parenting.

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      Yup. That’s good parenting. It’s crazy how young parents allow their kids to be on the internet. I do believe Minecraft is a good early game for a child though.

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        Yeah a few hours of computer or console time isn’t too bad. As long as it’s limited.

        Excessive screen media usage in children can have both positive and negative impacts on their development. Regarding cognitive development, screens have the potential to enhance education and learning. However, studies have shown that excessive screen time and media multitasking can negatively affect executive functioning, sensorimotor development, and academic outcomes. Early screen exposure has been associated with lower cognitive abilities and academic performance in later years.

        https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10353947/#sec3

        We’re seeing the latter almost exclusively.

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      1 month ago

      Bah.

      I know a lot of kids end up messed up and addicted to screens or whatever but my parents let me use computers and the internet as much as I wanted and I’m sort of glad they did. My dad only (attempted) to refuse any access to my Xbox one summer after I got some D’s. I pretended to not use it but I was still waking up like 5-6 hours before him so I’d get my fix every morning anyway.

      That said, I stumbled into seeing DBZ hentai when I was like 8-9 on the internet. I did not let my parents find out precisely bc I was worried about them taking away the computer from me. I don’t think that meaningfully negatively impacted me either but obviously its hard to know.

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        a lot of kids end up messed up and addicted to screens

        waking up like 5-6 hours before him so I’d get my fix every morning anyway

        My point exactly.

        after I got some D’s

        What’s a D in internationally understood scoring? Like 40%?

        That said, I stumbled into seeing DBZ hentai when I was like 8-9 on the internet. I did not let my parents find out precisely bc I was worried about them taking away the computer from me. I don’t think that meaningfully negatively impacted me either but obviously its hard to know.

        What the fuck.

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    Start by not having your 5 year old play video games, and certainly not online.

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      As a parent with a 5 year old, Minecraft has been very educational for her. She’s learned some brilliant spelling and keyboard skills, building hand-eye coordination, etc. plus Minecraft can be limited to just single player or private servers (I have a private server setup just for my family for example) so they won’t be interacting with inappropriate content or unvetted individuals

      I’m much less happy about Fortnite for example, since that has random voice chat, is always online and forced Windows-only via anti-cheat

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        Being exposed to other people is not the only problem with kids playing videogames. It’s mostly the instant-dopamine.

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          Best to get them desensitized to dopamine when they’re young. Less disappointment when they’re older.

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          Minecraft doesn’t have many of those instant dope hits if you limit what servers they can play on, instead having them favor single player, as train seems to be doing. If you’re going to let them play, I think Minecraft is one of the best options.

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    No different than if one child messes up the Lego build that another built. This is nothing new, only digital. Typical sibling annoyance.

    Struggling to parent this issue is just showing signs of being a shitty parent.

    You tell them to knock it off and teach one child to have empathy and care for others by thinking of how they’d feel if someone messed up something they built.

    Sometimes you could also just chalk it up to kids being kids, so long as it isn’t constant.

    But to be honest, at these ages, the 5 year old probably doesn’t fully understand. Just need to put some limits and maybe have them stay in their own sandbox in the game for now.

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    Depends, if the kiddo did it in survival mode you should probably congratulate him. If it was in creative then you have yourself a griefer. Griefers should be shot into the sun. I am sorry for your loss.

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      Not that hard in survival tbh. Just need to get two cows inside and keep feeding them wheat. Babies grow up in a few minutes, and growth becomes exponential.

      Friend did this to me but with chickens, which is worse because they lay eggs.

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        Free food though, it really isn’t a problem as long as you can make a stone sword which is easy

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      I think the not knowing how to parent part was a joke. Parenting is always figuring out how to navigate whatever new problem your kids are having, and if your kids are playing Minecraft together they definitely have an parenting experience mediating in-game disputes

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      Yeah, children having a fight over something not immediately relatable to an adult bystander, how arcane! And it’s about computer things, so that should absolve me of any responsibility as a parent.

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    Minecraft gets even more confusing when your friend tells you he’s got to go fish for some bees.

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      You can fish for bees in vanilla? I thought that was my Modpack being a dick and ruining my relaxation and angry bee sometimes.

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    Honestly, just use their accounts to start playing in a sincere effort to fix the problem manually. They’ll quickly learn that nothing they can do to each other is worse than your mediation. I call that “The Solomon Approach.”

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    I mean it is good that he doesn’t want to just indiscriminately wipe out the population of housed cows