One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don’t know him super well yet, though. He’s a big part of this new friend group and I don’t know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he’s a cop.

I don’t want to look past the fact he’s a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can’t talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

  • _chris@lemmy.world
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    18 hours ago

    ACAB but some individuals can be cool enough. Just know they could turn on you easier than others.

    My landlord is a cop, but he’s also a decent guy. To me. I try to bring up liberal talking points on the sly to at least expose him to alternate opinions. He’s not against them, so that’s good.

    It’s hard. I kinda have to have a mental block up against the individual’s career choice, because he’s not one of the 100% asshole / racist / fully bastard cops. I know / knew some of them too, and I won’t give them the time of day once the convo showed their true colors (which, happens within an hour or less usually).

    I guess they’re comfortable showing their true colors to me over a beer because we …look the same. Gross.

    But, know that if it hasn’t already happened, there’s probably some humanity left in them.

    • Bizzle@lemmy.world
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      15 hours ago

      A cop AND a landlord! That guy is really going all in on being a scumbag, does he moonlight as a debt collector?