I’m saddened to hear that, I’ve heard a few horror stories about emigrating here, it’s unfortunately restrictive. I hope you can find somewhere that will work for you and your son.

In Australia your son would be eligible for the National Disability Insurance Scheme which would supply government funding for all the services he requires. You would possibly also be eligible for your own disability support funding as his primary carer but I’m not sure on the criteria for that.

I’m not sure you could exactly call it brainwashing but Josefina Rivera was able to gain the trust of her abductor enough that he let her visit her family. As soon as she was free she called the police which led to his arrest and the freeing of the other abductees.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gary_M._Heidnik?wprov=sfla1