

So, I’ll be honest, I don’t understand most of the technical stuff about lemmy. I just know it’s open source, no ads/corpos, and all the individual lemmys can interact with each other like how emails can send emails between gmail and yahoo. But what does defederate actually mean? Like how does it change things? Does it mean that people with the @lemmy.one can’t see the privacy instance anymore? And they have to change their account?
There’s a Midwest focused instance and I wouldn’t call that division. They’re not trying to exclude East and west coasters. They don’t hate southerners. It’s just similar people gathering to talk about the things they have in common, which in this instance are midwesterner things. It’s the same for women. It’d be nice to have a place to talk about things that women have in common and experience that men don’t. If it was anything like the 2XChromosomes subreddit then men wouldn’t be banned, and plenty of men comment, it’s just that the topic of conversation focuses on women and women’s experiences. Having a place for people, especially women, to talk about women’s issues and experiences isn’t anymore divisive than having a midwestern instance or a European instance. And it would be a good place for men to look into to learn more about what life is like as a woman. If men feel they don’t have a place to talk about men’s problems, then they should also make an instance specifically for talking about men’s experiences