

I understand your point (I think I do) rationally. The difference is that I feel that any discrimination (figure, style, voice) is wrong… which is extreme, correct? I wasn’t very anxious about those because they felt controllable, and now I learn there is a different trait which I might not be conscious of, affecting my behaviour. That (belief) causes anxiety.
I assume you are talking about subconscious fears?
Oh and how great it is to be able to learn
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-024-00418-y
The relative importance of attractivenesss and intelligence to the mate prefernces and choices of women and their parents.
The abstract is viewable for free. Both parents and daughters prefer the attractive mate.