The weather thing was probably a bad example. I just mean that people are generally complaining in public and stuff about small things

Here in Germany I feel like many people constantly complain in public no matter where they are

I mean primarily irl

Sorry man I don’t understand what your problem is with me but I don’t think it’s healthy to keep engaging in this conversation

Sorry I don’t really understand what you mean. I was just asking what it is about this particular instance because people here seem quite hateful

What?

And to add to it: There are always two ways of looking at things. There is the optimistic and pessimistic view. I think the Western world had an opportunity for a more positive attitude by making Kamala Harris president. But as we know that didn’t happen and at this point I think the hate has already normalized. In a way I think Trump embodies hate. Just look at his Truth Social posts and compare them to Harris’ X posts.

I hope I’m not turning hateful then. I’m trying my best to stay positive and don’t let the negativity influence me

Have you ever been to Germany?

I’m wondering why my post gets such negative reception here in “Ask Lemmy” but has the exact opposite perception that’s way more positive in other communities such as over at “No Stupid Question”. I wonder if there’s something about this community?

I probably should’ve specified Germany in particular since I can relate from local experience. I have never been to France so far unfortunately. So maybe it’s mainly just Germany.

What I mean is complaining about banal/small things. It’s obvious to complain if actual bad things happen such as war. Idk where you are from but here in northern Germany people constantly complain about every little thing such as the weather, grocery prices, migrants and the list goes on and on and we don’t have things like wars going on.

It’s the types of things people complain about that I don’t understand. Imo other people who have serious issues are definitely entitled to complain. But if someone has a high quality life and constantly complains about small things and thereby constantly spreads negativity it seems unnecessary to me.

I think it doesn’t cost anything if I approach a place or person and point out something positive instead of complaining that they didn’t build the building properly or whatever…

I’m not complaining just asking nicely…

But why not talk about something positive?

Like I said: complaining about grocery prices, complaining about migrants, complaining about the weather and basically complaining about every little thing and the list goes on and on

I’m sorry for your experience

I’m not trying to blame anyone here. Just want to understand including understanding my own country of course.

Like I said this is not what this was meant to be for. I was looking for some educated explanations of the matter from an objective/scientific perspective to also widen my horizon on the matter. I don’t want a bate or finger pointing here.

Like I mentioned in my post I wasn’t trying to downplay the racism that’s also still prevalent in Germany at all.

From my view and from other Germans I talked to who even lived in America it just seems like Americans overly focus on ethnicity and these stereotypes linked to that on a daily basis that’s dividing these people to a bigger extent than in Germany.

Maybe I’m wrong here and I don’t want to discard any personal experiences with this that are different especially for people who were more directly affected by this. And I’m very open for thoughtful and fair education about it.

But generally it seemed like to me that Germany is pretty open for migrants and refugees. Currently 17% of the German population are first-generation immigrants where in America it’s only 13% of the population with the plan to also soon mass deport illegal immigrants.

55% of all Muslims also have German citizenship and to me it felt like that many of them are very well integrated with many even living here for more than one generation and are pretty much being treated like any other German.

I think the clash might be more with immigrants/refugees who aren’t from Germany and can barely speak the language. Because when you’re living here since birth no one really questions your ethnicity whereas in America it seems to be a thing of daily occurrence where people are divided by just their skin color even though all of these people involved are as equally American and lived there for multiple generations.

From what I understood there are even schools for only black people. These such things are unthinkable from a Germans perspective. I don’t think we have schools that are only for black, or Jews, or Arab, or Muslim people.

I’ll give you an example as well: I know a German girl who has Asian ethnicity. She told me that her ethnicity basically never was a thing in Germany where she was just another German. But when she was doing an exchange year in America she noticed how big of a thing it is in America to make a deal out of someones ethnicity like when it’s Asian which felt very weird to her.

Like I mentioned in my post I’m not at all trying to downplay any of the racism that also still exists in Germany. To me and other Germans I know who even lived in America it just seems that Americans overly focus on ethnicity and these stereotypes linked to that on a daily basis that’s dividing these people to a bigger extent than in Germany.

Maybe I’m wrong here and my personal experience might be different from yours but I would love to understand more generally about this topic in a scientific way. That’s why I asked this here.

So correct me if I’m wrong but please be thoughtful and fair in your answers.