Spiders.

They protect my plants from gnats and hide out during the day to not disturb or frighten me. Best roommates I’ve ever had.

Of course. I was focusing on the doing or recieving part and completely missed the second part: Are you a botherer and bothered OF/BY or ABOUT god?

It can be either one, so I’d say it depends on how religious and/or deranged the speaker is. Like you said - most would say it’s about god, while I was deranged enough to interpret it as being a direct communication with a god.

Hmm. Probably no one.

Small amounts are weird to need “no questions asked” and large amounts are too large to give away “no questions asked”. Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

If they can’t tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it’s probably because it’s something I don’t want my money to go to, so I’m not inclined to agree under those premises.

At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can’t ask questions (“I’m preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don’t want you to have to testify”), but by then there is no longer no questions asked…

Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn’t have to ask.

Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.

I don’t think I’ve ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually…

It depends on if the subject of the sentence (the person) is doing the thing (being active) or having the thing done to them (being passive). Think like this:

A helper (help-ER) is someone who is helping/doing the help. A caller (call-ER) is calling someone else. A botherer (bother-ER) is someone who is doing the bothering.

Someone who is recieving bother is being bothered (bother-ED), one who is getting help is being helped (help-ED), or getting calls is being called (call-ED).

God-botherer is someone who is god-bothering (bothering god). God-bothered is someone being bothered by god.

We can’t fix other peoples issues for them.

We can choose to support them if they are actively trying to fix their own issues.

We can also decide that even though they are trying the impact is too big on us and distance ourselves.

But if they aren’t actually trying to better themselves there is nothing we can do except protect ourselves.

Your sister needs to look into co-dependence and trauma-bonding (if not in this case then for future reference), and focus on becoming emotionally independent rather than confusing nurturing with doormat. She can only fix her own issues, not her friends. And learn that not every friend is worth the title.

Not surprising; it’s far more practical to get information across by switching to a language you both speak fluently. If you ask the other person to help you practice the language, it would change the task from “information” to “training”, and you’d probably have better luck in speaking German if that’s the expressed goal.

Communicate your wants, or you’ll end up with the most efficient route to the end of the interaction. 'Tis the German way.

That sounds horrible. I struggle with energy a lot, but not to the degree you’re describing so I can’t imagine…

I generally think we should be careful with self-medicating, and I don’t know if this is allowed on this forum so I’ll accept any consequences:

Have you tried amphetamines/stimulants? Like a very low dose, not anything to make life a party but just a hint to get yourself going, lower than anything you think of. Only early in the morning and no refills during the day, so it won’t interfere with your sleep and won’t build tolerance. And only pure shit, a thoroughly tested substance, not street-meth or other untested garbage that can be mixed with fentanyl and cocaine and a host of other substances - I mean like actual adhd-medication.

It’s not going to solve whatever underlying issue you have (unless it’s ADHD, lol), but if it makes you function and feel better it while figuring it out it could be worth it. Ideally as prescribed by a doctor to monitor your heart and health over time.

Regardless , I hope you find whatever you need to feel better and more energetic.